There have been many instances where women scream one thing or another is a double standard. How truer are those words than as it relates to these times in our lives? I have been thinking a lot about my actions in my 20’s and 30’s. As a victim of sexual assault as a child and teenager, the last thing I would want to do is assault someone else. Is that what I was doing when I grabbed men by the balls? Is it assault when a friend grabs her friend’s boobs or her butt? These new allegations against Donald Trump as well as his own words at first had me looking at him with growing disgust. Then, I started to do what I haven’t done over the last two years….compare myself to him. Yes, I’m not running for public office but does that make my actions any different? Does it make the actions of others who grab and grope any different?
I’m seriously conflicted. We can easily make excuses and come up with reasons to justify our actions but actions are still actions. There is a lot of food for thought and soul searching that I need to do and our nation as a whole needs to do. What do we want to pass on to our children, our nieces and nephews, our grandchildren, the next generation? Where do we draw the line between right and wrong, acceptable and deplorable?
I don’t know the answers but what I do know is that I don’t like my butt being grabbed, my boobs being poked or being forcibly kissed.