It's hard not to look at images in celebrity magazines, social media posts, fb posts etc and not feel some kind of way about the very real fact that dark skin women as a chosen mate are becoming extinct. This doesn't just extend to famous people but also to those in our every day lives. Sitting here trying to think of which of my dark skinned friends is married to a black man or married at all and I can only honestly think of one. Why is that?
I look at the image enclosed in this blog and wonder damn, is light right? Sometimes I feel like I'm behind the eight ball. My dad and both of my brothers are with hispanic or white women. And as much as I love my step mother and sister in law, sometimes I wonder what drew them to my family members. I myself am not opposed to dating outside of my race or even dating someone the same complexion as me. Ironically, I often find myself drawn to white men for whatever reason. However, I can't help but constantly question the motivation for those who only date light or white.
It's been an age old question for centuries. I mean I could write a dissertation on the impact of slavery on today's society but that would morph into something completely different. So instead, I sit and ponder and wonder. It would be awesome if some of the black men out there spoke up about their reasons....
Do they believe the myth that dark women are too loud?
Do they believe the myth that dark women are too proud?
Do they believe the myth that dark women aren't easy?
Do they believe the myth that dark women don't give head?
Do they believe that dating a dark women is a step down and a light one is a step up?
Do they believe that dark is synonymous with dirty?
Do they believe that the dark woman is ugly?
Do they believe that the dark woman is the field woman?
Do they believe none of this?
I don't know. But what I do know is that the dark woman is rarely the woman on the arm of so many "successful" black men. What I do know is that the dark woman is rarely the love interest in so many hip hop and r&b videos. What I do know is that the dark woman to me seems to be the least popular choice of mate in many circles from entertainment and sports and even in our every day community. But does it really matter? Like who cares right? I thought I didn't until I saw the attached picture. Maybe I care more than I thought I did.....