Went to see a movie about OUR American history that focused on the civil rights act of 1965 more specifically the events in Selma that lead up to it. I went by myself as I usually end up doing with socially conscious movies. With that being said I encourage everyone who has the compassion in them to be open to seeing how and why others sacrificed for you...for us....to go see this movie!!! There's a lot of competition out there in the movie theaters, but nothing will capture you quite like this one. GO!!!!!!
We've all had those guys who "were going through their phone and found your number so they figured they'd call". I feel like it happens to me more times than I can count. I can't tell you how many times former flames have reached out to me to tell me that they were in a new "committed" relationship. As if I give a shit....we ain't together bro!! Or, the guys that have called and asked to start again with me. The best has to be the guy that was actually married and asked me to join him in an affair. I get way more calls than is really necessary. Today was no exception.
A guy who I haven't spoken to in like two years, text messaged me and said he'd like to start over and try again. We never even dated, but he kept insisting that we now move on to that date he promised me two years ago. I asked him why did he decide that now was the best time to reach out. His response? He moved back to NY and was looking through his phone and remembered how beautiful I was. As I'm sitting there engaging via text with him, I can't stop thinking about how weird this is. I mean dude keeps on insisting that we meet for Mexican and then out of nowhere, tells me he only dates black girls. That's when I start getting scared. I feel like the news outlets have me thinking everyone means me harm. I'm thinking i'm gonna end up with a rapist, a terrorist, a racist, a sexist....the list goes on. It's like I can no longer spot a normal guy. Is this guy normal? Is his behavior normal? I mean all he keeps asking for is a date. But, I guess I'm nervous because of the insistence in which he keeps asking. Instead of saying lets get to know each other a little better, he's like lets go out. I mean it is just a date right?
Anyway, if anyone has advice or can help me look at things a bit more clearly I'd be extremely grateful. I'd hate to ward off this guy because my sense of judgement is off.
One of the most memorable lines from the movie Mean Girls was "you can't sit with us". Well, that same nasty attitude can be found on tv some ten years later on the various Real Housewives franchises. I was watching the RHOA the other day and for real.....Nene has shown herself to be an embarrassment to her race and to women as a whole. She, Phaedra, Kenya....I can go on and on....are jokes. Maybe that's why I watch, I enjoy a joke and laughter every once in a while. But at what point do you take a look at the laughter and shock and say to yourself this is clearly meanness that is dragging down a culture and womanhood. I remember one of my friends and me were talking about Nene and she had a good point. She said that Nene is a clear example of "hurt people hurt". Normally, a person would want to put their arm around someone that is clearly hurting. Nene's personality rejects that desire in me.
The women on that show are always snapping their fingers saying "gurllll she read you". Someone needs to sit them down and "learn" them (as my step grandfather used to say). Iyanla needs to fix their life for real.
UGH......As i'm typing this, I can't help but think what is the purpose of this post. I'm not helping by ranting about women who will never read this!! Am I succumbing to the meanness I'm clearly against? I don't know!! What I do know is that at some point you have to look at yourself in the mirror and ask why? Why am I making the choices I'm making? Why is it easy to drag someone down and call them names? Why is it easy to proclaim I'm Christian yet not exhibit any Christian like qualities? It's crazy!!
Will I stop watching??? Hmmmm.....probably not :-( Will I stop hating??? Hmmmm....probably not :-( Will I make a concerted effort to think about what I say, how I react and why I choose to approach people and things the way I do??? Yup!!! Here's to hoping that this negativity has a positive impact on myself and the people who watch. I hope that it forces us to look within and make decisions that ultimately make us better than the images and scenes that stare back at us from week to week.
The Knicks are 5-35!!! FIVE AND THIRTY FIVE!!!! Andddddd, they're going to London! Andddd they're hosting the NBA All Star Game!!!! What is going on?? Am I dreaming?? I can't believe they've collapsed this bad with so much seemingly good fortune on their side.
We have what equates to a D league team right now. Melo seems to be a shell of himself in comparison to prior seasons. JR and Shump are gone!!! Tyson Chandler is gone!! I mean what is going on??? Now, don't get me wrong I wasn't and I'm still not a huge fan of Shump or JR but damn!!! What the hell is Phil doing????? I mean come on man!!! As a fan of the Knicks, I feel robbed in some way. I try and sit down to watch each game but I always end up changing the channel. As bad as they are, I try to be a "true" fan and stick with it from beginning to end. But, it's hard!! Everyday, when I'm driving to and from accounts for work I listen to ESPN radio and nobody and I mean NOBODY has anything good to say about the team. They threw the former coach under the bus. They threw the former players under the bus. They threw the owner under the bus. They threw the gm under the bus. Nothing has changed this season. And I guess the thing that irks me the most is that much of what has been said this season I agree with. When Colin Cowherd says Melo is selfish....how is it hard not to agree?? When Michael Kay says they're playing like Dogs....how is it hard not to agree?? When Stephen A. Smith says the Knicks snubbed a Rondo trade....how is it hard not to agree??? As much as it annoys me that the team has a depressing record, wanting them to lose make sense in terms of their future.
So, here I am. Disgruntled!! A fan nonetheless!! Are the Knicks going to win 20 games this season?? 10? The way that they've been playing I'd put my money on NO to both. Phil took a lot of the blame and responsibility for the demise of this team. He says he has a plan B. Melo says he believes in the plan. What else can you say? Nothing I guess...just sit, wait and watch!!
My name is Tamieka Blair and I live on Long Island in New York. I write, I read, I write, I work, I write, I support..I WRITE!!!
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