It’s easy to blame my childhood and the men who helped to corrupt it. It’s easy to blame my physical disabilities. It’s even easy to blame “society” for the lack of men available. But the truth is, I’m picky haha. Many shows have been dedicated to women and their lists and their opinions. I don’t have a list (written down), but I do keep a mental one. When I think about what I don’t want in a guy as opposed to what I do, many of the items on that list can be misconstrued as selfish. But, it’s hard to mark things like a nice grill, clean, working and respectful of women off a list. Obviously there is more to a man than just that, but let’s be real, if those 4 things aren't immediately met and/or discovered on a date it’s not that easy to proceed.
I was once engaged to a good man. He was clean, had a job, no kids, nice teeth and was respectful of me. But, at the end of the day all sorts of other elements came into play and the realization began to sink in that we were not made for each other. I came to the conclusion that happiness was important to me and fighting about things we deeply disagreed with was not the life I wanted for the rest of my days. So, back on the dating scene I went. Years later, I reflect on the choices I've made and wonder. I see so many relationships that last year after year but when I speak to the parties involved their not happy. I’m glad I made the decision to leave even if it means I’ll be a lifelong dater. Happiness is essential, but I don’t want happiness just on my wedding day, I want a lifetime of happiness.
And so….I date. Whether it’s a date to the movies, to dinner, to a football game, to the casino, to the beach or to any ordinary or extraordinary place we go, I will continue to be open to the possibilities. Maybe the man of my dreams won’t come until I’m in my forties or fifties. Maybe he’s reading this haha. Whatever the case may be, my heart remains open and my mind remains optimistic. To all of you daters out there….don’t give up the love you've been searching for is around the corner…it just may be a long corner…be patient!!!